Ways to Bring it Up
Ways of bringing OMGYES up to your partner that worked really well for our early users:
Suggesting it as a fun night together
It’s a jumping off point for couples – watch together then try the ones that seem more intriguing.
Knowledge that’s literally new to the world
These are new discoveries. These aren’t things anyone could know yet – they’re entirely new ways of thinking from new research that had never happened before. You can start with the research - the same way you’d sit around a laptop together and read about any other big news.
Go through the site alone first, then with your partner
Find techniques and variations of your favorite things, then show those to your partner.
Fun and Light – As a movie night
These women are funny and sex is pretty entertaining – so suggest OMGYES instead of watching a movie or show one night.
Like a position book from the future
It’s inspiration and new ideas for things to try in bed.
Because the relationship is strong
“We’re at a point where we can really talk about this stuff, which is awesome. Let’s explore even more.”
Mark of a good relationship is constantly exploring together
OMGYES is a good way to stay curious and explore even more things we enjoy.
Words for things we already like
There are things we already do that are amazing – OMGYES lets us find the words for them all so it will be easier to talk about them.
Use it alone to get a deeper understanding of yourself
Then show your partner the things you want to try.
The Details
Ways to Bring it Up
Who It's For
Privacy & Security
Compatibility
The Movement
The Cause
Staying Curious
The Research
What's Next
The Company
Who We Are
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Who It's For
OMGYES is for women, men and couples, together or solo - anyone curious about more ways to make a great thing even better.
Why women love it
Open and Comfortable
“I love that there are older women on the site. Like big sisters sharing their wisdom. And all the women so openly and comfortably talk about what they’ve discovered with beautiful, sensitive cinematography.”
An Eye-Opener
“It’s so surprisingly candid - totally an eye-opener how different they are. It made me want to explore what all my favorite things are and now I have words for them.”
Light and Fun
“It feels like hanging out with real people - not like a lecture or a book. I looked at it together with my girlfriends with wine and we laughed our asses off - in a good way. It got us talking about all this stuff we’ve never said to each other before.”
Tasteful Realness
“I’ve read so many books and seen so many diagrams but never had any idea how they applied to MY body. This site is real - and each technique is something I now totally understand and use.”
Words for my Favorites
“What I love is going through it all and finding the parts of the best sex I’ve ever had - and now I have words for those things and something to point to and say, ‘do that!’”
Do Once, Enjoy Forever
“I spend way more than this on a decent vibrator. And those break in a few months. This stuff I’ll use for life.”
Why men love it
Real People
“What’s so great is that it’s not porn people or ‘sex experts,’ it’s like regular people being open and honest and saying, hey, I’ll show you and let you practice with me.”
More Tools for Your Toolbox
“This is like an arsenal of backup plans. If one thing isn’t working, I’ve got like 12 more. And I understand how to read signals and what to ask to fine-tune each one.”
What Really Works
“All the techniques I have that actually work - I was taught by a woman who was really open with me. OMGYES is like a bunch more of those women being really open with me like that.”
Finer Points
“We already have great sex - but getting more perspective is always good because variety makes sex better.”
What It’s Like
“It’s like a dozen women said, hey, why not come over and we’ll each show you exactly how we like to be touched, and then let you try on us till you really understand each technique. Highlight of my year.”
Why couples love it
There’s Always More
“Kind of like there are always more positions to explore- this is another whole set of things to try that I’d never seen anywhere else.”
Bringing It To The Bedroom
“This is the kind of thing to do on a Friday night with wine, and to look forward to all day. We do it instead of watching a TV show some nights and love it.”
Comfortable Together
“It’s something comfortable I can point to- mix that one with that one- those are what I like. Before I understood how what I liked felt, but not what, specifically, to ask for.”
Didn’t think it was possible
“We already had orgasms so figured that we didn’t need to explore more. But it’s been a blast and we found new things that we do all the time now. My favorite technique wasn’t physical but was about how thinking about coming can make you not come. TOTALLY true and loved the solutions for that.”
Finally! A grown-up and beautiful approach to women’s pleasure
“It’s welcoming and relaxed so we can do the site together. It’s not porny but it’s also not like an instructor teaching stuff. We love it.”
Privacy & Security
We hate spam. And we hate when companies ask for and store unnecessary information about us.
No Personal Information
So we pride ourselves on not storing any personal information about our customers except the email address associated with the account. The email address is stored using state-of-the-art 256-bit encryption (AES-256.) We don't ever receive or store names, addresses or card numbers.
The payment processor (paypal, for instance) is the only one that gets the personal card info and only during the transaction. None of that info even goes through our company servers.
Device Compatibility
OMGYES is a website, not an app, and works right in the browser of your iPhone, iPad, android or laptop/desktop. There’s no app or software to download.
While the text and videos are playable on all devices that can play web video, the touchable simulation pushes technology to its limit so works only on newer versions of browsers and newer devices. See the list below.
On Your Mobile & Tablet Devices
On Your Desktop or Laptop
android
Android phone or tablet released 2012 or later running Android 4.2+
fire Tablets
iPhone
iPad
Microsoft Windows
OS X
Linux
The Cause
Women’s sexual pleasure has hidden in the shadows for too long. It’s time to get it all out in the open.
There’s so much that’s been left unsaid, unasked, and unknown. All because of a taboo that, we believe, will look absurd in a few decades—the same way taboos from the 1950’s about oral sex and homosexuality are absurd to us now. We want to accelerate that transition.
OMGYES is an entirely new way to explore fascinating, useful and fun information that’s been uncovered in new research. Let’s lift the veil and take an honest look at the specific ways women actually find pleasure.
Why women’s pleasure is still so mysterious:
1. Complexity gets confused for ‘unknowability.’
The anatomy is so sensitive and varies so much. A few millimeters or a slight difference in angle, pressure or rhythm can make the difference between discomfort and pleasure. And what feels best changes so much over time: over the course of arousal from warm-up through buildup and orgasm, day to day and life-stage to life stage.
This complexity has gotten confused for ‘unknowability.’ Even doctors and experts throw up their hands and say ‘everyone’s different, you have to figure out what works for you or your partner’ as if that’s the end of the discussion. Since when has variability stopped human curiosity and research?
2. It just hadn’t been researched before.
Instead of reliable, agreed-upon facts, the specific techniques and the ways women vary have been left to pop-culture to make up - lists of tips, opinions, rumors, sayings.
Sex research has been about general behaviors, like percentages of people who masturbate or use vibrators. Or the biology of what happens inside the body during sex and orgasm. But the actual techniques for women’s pleasure just hadn’t been researched before. Why? The large institutions that conduct research usually have at least a few very conservative supporters. And, for them, the specifics for women’s pleasure are still too taboo and uncomfortable to look at directly and specifically.
When there's no shared basis of understanding and lack of open conversation, myths and misinformation flourish and go unchecked.
3. The Hollywood myth
Depictions in media would have us believe that after a bit of missionary position or sex up against a wall, she’ll have a mind-blowing orgasm, every time, in under a minute. That’s the script even in tame romantic comedies. The great Hollywood lover telepathically ‘already just knows the moves.’ He doesn’t ask for any feedback and she doesn’t offer any.
4. There’s no specific, reliable source of information.
The internet has benefited almost every other part of our lives. We can easily look up reliable information about almost anything - but it's hard to find accurate information about the details of women's pleasure.
Anything else we do in life, there are established truths that are agreed - and our personal knowledge builds on what every previous generation has discovered.
It’s not just the religious or super-conservative that consider these specifics ‘obscene and indecent content’ - it’s the media companies, search engines and app-stores, too. We live in an era when graphic violence is acceptable but even the word, ‘clitoris,’ gets bleeped out on TV.
5. There aren’t shared words yet for the details.
One of the casualties of the taboo around women’s pleasure is that there aren’t words for the important ways touch can vary. There aren’t specific words for the kinds of detailed techniques that matter so much. There are vague, clinical words like stimulate and vague, pop-culture words like fingering and rubbing.
This lack of language makes it far harder to explore and find new things that work. Imagine trying a new recipe, but none of the ingredients or measurements have names. Or ordering from a menu but all of the dishes are called the same thing.
Is talking about these details that important? It turns out yes, it is. Women who are able to talk specifically about what makes sex more pleasurable for them are 8x more likely to be happier in their relationships!
Staying Curious
Couples who constantly explore new ways to increase pleasure are 5 times more likely to be happier in their relationships and 12 times more likely to be sexually satisfied.
OMGYES gathers research-based truths and gives them words.
OMGYES is a collection of the "a-ha" moments - realizations and techniques women and their partners have discovered, that they wish they could go back in time and show themselves.
Novelist Willa Cather once said, “There are only two or three human stories, and they go on repeating themselves as fiercely as if they had never happened before.”
What was surprising was that the research revealed the vast majority of women share very similar insights about pleasure and how to make it better.
No matter their age, women shared very similar realizations, techniques, frustrations, and lessons they wish they could go back in time and tell themselves and their partners. Insights about everything from specific ways of squeezing the clit in between surrounding skin to ways to stop overthinking in bed. From tricks to say what you like without hurting feelings to the ways certain rhythms of movement change the sensations building up to orgasm and result in different kinds of orgasms.
We’ve gathered the most prevalent techniques and the ones that make the biggest difference. And we’ve given them words that come from the women themselves. Language that pinpoints the little details that women have discovered are so important.
Only if it’s real, personal and explicit will it really bust myths and improve our lives.
Reading about these techniques and insights is very different from seeing the real thing, trying them and arriving at your own conclusions. When you realize something from experience or from a friend’s, it stays with you. It changes you. It makes it real, not theoretical.
When you can look someone in the eye and relate to them - and they share their true experience, we take in that information very differently. So that’s how we tried to make OMGYES - turning research-based insights into something personal - so these insights would really stick.
The most effective way to bust the myths around women’s pleasure is to really see the actual diversity and variability. Not the concept of it or a description of it - the reality of it. With actual, relatable women who love almost opposite techniques. And real anatomy, not just abstracted line-drawings with arrows.
After seeing the content on OMGYES, people consistently say, “what’s fascinating is HOW DIFFERENT THE TECHNIQUES ARE!” or “I kind of thought that what feels best changes over time, but wow.”
In this way, everyone can realize, through real experience, what we’re trying to get across - that it’s impossible to ‘already just know the moves’ with a new partner or with the same partner on a different day. That the best way to approach a lover is with an open mind, listening and asking for feedback. That giving and getting feedback doesn’t have to be awkward but can be really sexy and fun. That sexual pleasure can get better and better with exploration. That things that may feel ‘abnormal’ actually aren’t. That there are always so many new things to try - and staying curious makes for far better sex and happier relationships.
The Research
Scientists and researchers have uncovered the inner workings of almost everything in the world. But the only large-scale sex research that’s been funded has either been biological (the physiology of what happens in the body during sex) or behavioral (general activities without the details, like the percentage of women who have orgasms or use vibrators). So what about the actual techniques and insights that women across the world discover that lead to more pleasure? That was an uncharted frontier, when it comes to science and research.
So we conducted the first-ever, large-scale
peer-reviewed and published research to get the details. And, thanks to the success of OMGYES Season 1, we've launched Season 2 and continue to do more and more research, expanding and growing the evidence-based, human understanding of sexual pleasure.
How we did the research
We've conducted in-depth interviews with over 3,000 women, surveyed over 15,000 and conducted the first-ever nationally representative studies about the specifics of women’s pleasure and touch with over 4,000 more women, ages 18-95 - in partnership with researchers at Indiana University School of Medicine, Indiana University’s School of Public Health and The Kinsey Institute. Our research has been peer-reviewed and published.
Nationally representative means a slice of the country, across geographies, ages and subcultures - getting an accurate snapshot of what regular people actually do and think, without bias from the selection process.
Research Methodology Detail (for research-lovers)
For each round of OMGYES research, we start by interviewing over 1,000 women of a wide range of ages, asking them what breakthroughs made pleasure better for them. We ask if there are any techniques or strategies that made pleasure better that they wish they’d known sooner We ask what the a-ha moments were in their sexual journeys.
THE HOW - specific physical or mental techniques
THE WHY - how it feels, how it benefits them
NARRATIVES - ways they used to think one way, then had a breakthrough, then thought about it in a new way that led to more pleasure or other positive outcome
These are the bits of knowledge that have stood the test of time for each individual as being a truly valuable discovery. We don’t go in with theories, we go in open and let the data tell us what’s important to making women’s pleasure better, whether it’s physical, psychological or relational and whether it’s solo (in masturbation) or with a partner.
We then do thematic analysis to find patterns and topics for further study. For each topic area, we field thousands of more surveys probing for specifics:
We iterate these surveys to target and probe gaps.
We then build out a nationally representative survey to understand prevalence of the patterns. This survey is fielded through GfK / Knowledge Networks and the question/item language is co-written with researchers who are expert in fielding and analyzing surveys to nationally representative audiences about sexual behavior and attitudes.
This statistical data is useful not just for research papers, but for OMGYES.com, because it helps users legitimize and validate their experiences. It also gives users a feeling of having ‘backup’ - that a huge percentage of humans share their experience.
The first OMGYES Pleasure Report was conducted in partnership with researchers Debby Herbenick, PhD, Professor at Indiana University School of Public Health and researcher at The Kinsey Institute and Brian Dodge, PhD of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion of the Indiana University School of Public Health. It was completed by 1,055 adult women. The study was peer-reviewed and published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. The Second OMGYES Pleasure Report which informs OMGYES Season 2, was conducted in partnership with Devon Hensel, Assistant Research Professor at Indiana University School of Medicine. It was completed by 3,017 adult women. The papers will be submitted to journals this year. The survey was conducted online in collaboration with GfK’s Knowledgepanel, a probability-based web panel designed to be representative of the United States.
These interviews are also used to select women whose experiences typify the insights from the research. Our production team watches these interviews to assess whether the diversity/insight/fun/openness could make each a good spokesperson for each insight, pattern or topic in OMGYES videos.
What’s Next
This is such a fascinating frontier when it comes to research. We’ve just shown the tip of the iceberg. This is just the beginning. Future seasons of OMGYES will explore other topics, in depth.
OMGYES doesn’t and can’t cover everything.
As we all know, sexual pleasure is multi-faceted - with physical, relational and psychological dimensions. Our goal is to shed light on parts that have been left out or glossed over in other research and resources.
Our study showed that, while 17% of women orgasm from penetration, a full four times as many orgasm when there’s simultaneous clitoral stimulation. And we found the precise types of clitoral stimulation that are pleasurable hadn’t been researched. We decided, with Season 1, to focus mostly on those nuances.
For Season 2, we explore internal, vaginal pleasure and some stand-out shared insights women have about making it even better. Both seasons also include research findings that aren’t specific to internal or external pleasure —things like ways of giving/receiving feedback, stages, timing, mental components, breathing, building to multiples, flexing muscles, and lots more.
We will continue talking to women from a variety of perspectives and experience – we realize that some perspectives are not included in these first two seasons. We have so much to learn from each other, and a rich diversity of experience only adds to what we can learn and explore.
Variety of perspectives: this is just the beginning.
Using the proceeds from Seasons 1 and 2, we're making a free-to-access site with research and content about ways to re-find pleasure after trauma/abuse.
At the same time, we’re making Season 3 about techniques with toys and an entire series of seasons on men’s pleasure. Lots more research is in the works, too, including how women’s pleasure changes with menopause, with childbirth, among FGM/FGC survivors, trans pleasure and more. It really is a huge frontier and we feel very lucky to be in a position to explore it and document the findings both in published scientific journal articles and in personal, relatable online content.
Season 3 and beyond
Who We Are
We’re a group of researchers, filmmakers, engineers, designers, educators and sexologists who are passionate about making an honest, practical resource about women’s pleasure. We wanted this information for ourselves and couldn’t find it! Just knowing that ‘everyone’s different’ isn’t as useful as knowing the specific ways we’re different and being able to discuss them.
Our company is officially called, For Goodness Sake LLC, and our motto is Tech + Cause + Courage.
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